Monday, January 20, 2014

Don't ask

There's an unwritten rule that you just don't ask women
A. Their weight
B. their age

Most women are sensitive as either A or B or both increases. Many may be offended but oftentimes as the numbers get higher they evade the question some more and in some cases may lie about it. It may be shallow or due to insecurity but it is also in part due to societal constructs and norms.

At my age, there are a few other questions that are starting to get to me/my friends:
C. Why are you still single?
D. When are you getting married?
E. When are you going to have a baby?

Honestly, I am still fine as it is and if it weren't for the number and what most people that I share the same number with are now doing, I don't feel old at all. But somehow, it's like I now have this ticking clock about to explode anytime that is trying to kick me out of my youthful existence (starting from the way I dress). Sure, I know there's something I'm missing but what can I do? For many of us, it's not like we don't exactly want to (many feminists would probably be shaking their heads) get into a relationship or get married, or have a baby. We also do but sometimes, even the answer escapes us but that doesn't keep us from living and loving life. For fear of the judgement, I'd rather avoid than address the question. Ultimately everyone comes up to the conclusion that it is all my fault and there's something wrong with me (i.e. I am too choosy or whatever.)...

Sunday, January 19, 2014

All the love in the World


Boracay 2013

I may have found my new "theme song".

All the Love in the World
The Corrs
I'm not looking for someone to talk to
I've got my friend, I'm more than O.K.
I've got more than a girl could wish for
I live my dreams but it's not all they say
Still I believe (I'm missing) I'm missing something real
I need someone who really sees me...

(Don't wanna wake...) Don't wanna wake up alone anymore
Still believing you'll walk through my door
All I need is to know it's for sure
Then I'll give... all the love in the world

I've often wondered if love's an illusion
Just to get you through the loneliest days
I can't criticize it
I have no hestitaion
My imagination just stole me away
(Still...) Still I believe
(I'm missing) I'm missing something real
I need someone who really sees me...

(Don't wanna wake...) Don't wanna wake up alone anymore
Still believing you'll walk through my door
All I need is to know it's for sure
Then I'll give... all the love in the world

Love's for a lifetime not for a moment
So how could I throw it away
Yeah I'm only human
And nights grow colder
With no-one to love me that way
Yeah I need someone who really sees me...

(Don't wanna wake...) And i won't wake up alone anymore
Still believing you'll walk through my door
You'll reach for me and I'll know it's for sure
Then I'll give all the love in the world
(Don't wanna wake up alone anymore...)

Friday, January 03, 2014

Old school

Who writes greeting cards and sends them via post nowadays? Apparently, a lady I met in Seoul but is now back in her home country who doesn't even celebrate Christmas does! Albeit arriving late, this was instead a welcome surprise to kick start the new year. So blessed and lucky to know these people. Seoul will always have a special place in my heart mostly because of these people with whom I shared all those amazing adventures with.
Hello 2014!

To Him be the glory!

P.S. I should probably change my facebook name to my real name because this card was addressed to a certain Joyce Demet. Haha

Let it Go

Last night's girl talk with some of the girls I met in Seoul was refreshing. Also, finally being able to openly admit to common friends what I did and the regret for friendship wasted and sorely missed due to my stupidity and weakness was liberating. It was something I tried to avoid and hide though obviously they knew. At the same time a certain kind of peace moved in its place. It was really great to have been given the chance to stay for a while in Korea- to meet all these amazing people and share in all those amazing adventures. Life is good. 
Another great year I hope.

2012 was an epic year rich with experiences and adventures.
2013 was a year of learnings, lessons of letting go and moving on.
2014, what will you be?